Women often come to bed willing to have a good experience, but not really wanting or craving sex until aroused. According to psychoanalytic literature, the " Madonna—whore complex " is said to occur when a male desires sexual encounters only with women whom he sees as degraded "whores" while he cannot desire sexually a respectable woman "the Madonna". While many women do learn orgasm through self-stimulation, a large proportion begin their sexual lives within a relationship or hook-up. Sex begins in the mind. Most women do love sex, but desire can easily be derailed by tiredness, resentment, or the physiological problems of pain or menopause. But a year later her cousin decided that it would be a lot more convenient to his career and country if Virginia was available to have sex with someone else. Women are able to achieve multiple orgasms due to the fact that they generally do not require a refractory period like men do after the first orgasm; though generally reported that women do not experience a refractory period and thus can experience an additional orgasm, or multiple orgasms, soon after the first orgasm,   some sources state that both men and women experience a refractory period because, due to clitoral hypersensitivity or sexual satisfaction, women may also experience a period after orgasm in which further sexual stimulation does not produce excitement. He points especially to the 1, years of misery and disease—often accompanied by some very un-sexy smells and itching—that led up to the Industrial Revolution. The reason for such a killing may include refusing to enter an arranged marriage, being in a relationship that is disapproved by their relatives, having sex outside marriage, becoming the victim of rape, or dressing in ways which are deemed inappropriate. But just how much has the act really changed through the millennia and even in past decades?