The sexism that women only earn a portion of what men earn, for the same work, extends to both gay men and straight men. When they are, many of them use protection. Often, making a list and then discussing how to divide it can be a discussion at home, or in session. What exactly does he need? Fun— Fortunately, one huge and consistent benefit I have observed in gay male relationships over straight ones is that gay couples consistently demonstrate a youthfulness, playfulness, and sense of fun, especially with peers but also alone with each other. They love their wives and they love their children. Consequently, these non-heterosexual children grow into sexually confused adults. Unlike straight couples, who up until relatively recently had the monopoly on legal recognition of their relationships before domestic partnerships and marriage equality laws , gay men were treated by the law as two unrelated individuals under one roof, especially for legal and tax purposes. Maintaining a mixed-orientation marriage requires enduring the stress of keeping the secrets that one of them is gay and being discreet how they live their lives. The gay men that I work with are often from mixed cultures or different nationalities. They make this choice with open discussions, which are very painful and emotional for both the gay man and the straight wife. While this is not necessarily unique to gay men, a big factor can be finding time for sex, when often both partners are busy, high-level executives or professionals who work extraordinarily long hours or have jobs that require frequent travel. You can often display your rate. Gay male couples tend to be more politically aware, and even more politically active attending protests, writing letters, attending fundraisers, observing boycotts, making donations than straight couples, because their rights and existence are challenged every day these days with a certain urgency and immediacy that straight couples are generally spared.