Well, i purchased a spy camera because i felt i was going to get canned at work due to age, etc… i set it up in our bedroom just for grins but really wanted to see how long it would record along with the sound. Her having sex with you more lately is great — but if she goes back to her old ways you have to be honest and have this discussion with her. Makes you go hhhhmmmmmmm…. She finds the act of sex uncomfortable or awkward This means she might have insecurites concerning her body or perfomance or she dislikes the act of actually being touched by a man not you in a personal way or just going through the process of making love. A real person beats imagination for me anytime, because I actually love that person, not just have a biological function that requires them. The only method of control I have found that actually works is masturbation. That sense that if you really enjoy sex with your husband… If you desire, delve, and delight in sex… If you even invite, initiate, and indulge in sex… If you—heaven forbid! Honestly, I had to use two hands to move the mouse around. I'm a young adult, professing Christian, but I haven't found a reasonable answer to this in this sub or anywhere. If she was ever sexually abused, she might harbor fantasies of being abused, or raped maybe by the same perpetrator or others or even you, actually raping her or even picture other random men or even you raping other women. But God has created ordinances and means of grace for his church to use for restoration and healing. There are many Christian people, both men and women, that live dual lives because because of their inability to reconcile their sexual desires with what they have been taught is sexual sin. But Paul answers this objection in the text, when he makes the point that the Christian sexual ethic requires love of neighbor applied to the context of marriage — to love the spouse above oneself, against abusive relationship structures 1 Corinthians 7: The apps she downloaded bothered me quite a bit, but nothings on there now and it was several months ago when she last downloaded anything….